Putting Off The Mask Of Masculinity – Lewis Howes

Men in recent years and even from time past have been said to be full of ego and pride. These traits can be of good and sometimes otherwise.

In an environment where emotions are of important priority, men also do have other side as opposed the masculinity nature the portrayed outside to the opposite sex.

Below are some  reasons to remove the masculine mask which was compiled by Lewis Howes

Read Below;

How The Mask of Masculinity Can Help Men and Women Alike

For hundreds of years, society has conditioned men about how they should act and behave. Some of these conditions are good, such as bravery, respect, and honor.

Some, however, can be a detriment, such as the idea that men should show no emotion, should be able to handle everything on their own, and should treat aggression as an admirable trait.

For men, the first step in keeping these misguided ideals from holding them back is to recognize them. Likewise, for women, it’s important to recognize when the men in their lives are being influenced by these ideals so that they can act accordingly and help them move past them.

This is where The Mask of Masculinity offers real value. It shines a light on the various masks that men sometimes wear, why they are often detrimental, and how they can put them aside in order to enjoy a healthier, more fulfilling life.

Why do Men Wear Masks?

Over the years, society has created an image of how “real men” should act and behave.

These ideals of a “real man” come at us from every angle.

They’re in the movies we watch, the books we read, the stories in our history texts, and the pressures from our peers. However, not every man truly exhibit these ideals. Left to be themselves, they may prefer to behave in ways entirely different from how society has conditioned them to behave. The pressure to behave as expected, though, is intense, and for many men, the solution is to wear masks.

They spend years trying to convince others and themselves that they embody all of the ideals a man is supposed to embody, and in the process, they often lose sight of who they really are.

The Masks that Men Wear

There are a number of masks men sometimes wear in order to convey the idea that they really are what society expects them to be.

These masks include:

  • The Stoic Mask – Demands that men should never show emotion
  • The Athletic Mask – Demands that men must be physically superior to their peers
  • The Aggressive Mask – Demands that men show aggression whenever they are angry
  • The Sexual Mask – Dictates that men must be promiscuous and successful with the opposite sex
  • The Joker Mask – Demands that men use humor to deflect and dodge real issues
  • The Know-it-all Mask – Demands that men be intellectually superior to their peers
  • The Invincible Mask – Demands that men show no signs of emotional or physical pain
  • The Material Mask – Demands that men pursue material wealth and possessions
  • The Alpha Mask – Demands that men portray an image of dominance over their peers

In some situations, these masks can prove useful, particularly in a society that dictates this is how men should behave. This occasional usefulness is perhaps the reason why these masks have stuck around for so long even though we have now largely moved into a world where they are no longer necessary.

In many other instances, though, these masks can shackle men to an image that doesn’t truly represent them, leading to disappointment, failure, and overall unhappiness.

Why it’s Time to Take the Masks Off

Society convinces many men must behave a certain way lest they become unsuccessful and ostracized. This idea, however, is a lie and a dangerous one at that.

Sometimes, it’s okay for men to be stoic. Sometimes it’s okay for a man to be humorous, or athletic, or pursue material wealth.

However, it’s also okay for men to be open, tender, and vulnerable. In fact, the men who are able to exhibit these latter traits when these traits are truly what they are feeling on the inside are the ones who are the most successful in their relationships, their career, and their life as a whole.

Successful, happy men are not confined to a cookie-cutter ideal of what men should be like. Successful, happy men are the ones who are true to themselves in spite of the ideals they’ve been conditioned to.

As a society, it’s time we take off the mask and allow ourselves and other men to dictate for themselves how they should behave. Traits such as humor, athleticism, and intellect should be encouraged when they are genuine. So should traits such as vulnerability and openness. When these traits are genuine, they are incredibly valuable. When they are a mask, though, they are rarely of any value and only hold us back.

I’m honored to have been able to speak with Lewis and to read his book, and I hope that men and women alike will take the time to better understand the pitfalls of wearing these masks and learn how to move past them into a life that is more fulfilling and rewarding.

 

Facebooktwittergoogle_plusredditpinterestlinkedinmail
Click to comment

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

Good Success Online is a platform developed to explore, research, report and publish proven principles, strategies, technologies and philosophies employed by successful individuals and organizations to succeed. It covers the subjects of Success & Motivation, Technology & Digital Marketing, Leadership & Entrepreneurship, Business & Management, Health & Fitness, Interviews & Success Stories reported and published in Articles, Audios & Video Programs formats.

Inspiring greatness

Copyright © 2017 powered by SSN Media.Themetf

To Top